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title	A Collaborative Autoethnography for Intimate Relationships with Parents
author(s)	Insook Hwang · Myeungchan Kim(Inje University)
Keywords	autoethnography, loneliness, intimacy, distancing, the parent-child relationship
Abstract	This study is designed as a collaborative autoethnography to search into the emotions I experienced as a child, who was deprived of the sense of intimacy with parents. In the relationship with parents, my affection and care for them were not accepted and my existence in the family was never properly appreciated. In an effort not to express negative feelings like anger, sorrow and resentment, I decided to keep distance from my parents. While keeping distance from them, I came to deny my feelings and tried to hide them. Nevertheless, I managed to live under the delusion, believing my life was not so bad, not realizing how difficult situations I was dealing with. I have been always lonely, and I have wondered if I was living a decent life. With this study, I would like to find solutions to the question, while suggesting the right attitudes of counselors in providing counselling for clients. The results are as follows. First, counselors need to help clients realize their own emotions properly – that is to say ‘mediation’. Second, counselors also need to sympathize with clients to help them feel their feelings are legitimate and resonable – that is to say ‘sympathy’. Third, in addition to ‘sympathy’, it is important to help clients introspect their own experiences in the relationship with their parents as they are, - that can be done by ‘proper interpretation.’ Fourth, counselors should help clients realize their needs in their deeper minds and encourage them to change themselves - that is to say ‘self-motivation’.
file	6황인숙김명찬.pdf